What's wrong with everyone?!?!
Leslie
1,729 Posts
I came back from my vacation and wondered what in the world happened to the forum. The questions, responses, ideas, and thoughts seemed so generic compared to before I left - and Don D won't talk? Unthinkable!
I read the "What's appropriate" thread on how to use the forum. For me, I rarely slam on the forum, simply because it's not my way, not in life, not in writing. But I do get slammed. It doesn't "hurt," because this is professional. I can't get hurt professionally - I may get angry, most likely indignant - but not hurt. When someone is disagreeing with me, well that's simply all that is. Isn't that the point? That we read and have available to us different points of view?
I'm not going to force my opinion down anyone's throat - that's from practice. My SO is a Republican - I'm not. We go at it regularly. Rarely will we ever be able to change an opionion - perhaps alter an opinion, but that's about all you can hope for.
The racy talk? To quote a phrase, bah, humbug. I don't know how anyone can get offended. I can tell pretty much right off the top which way a thread is going, especially in HR-d-har-har. If you don't like it, don't read it, and DON'T GO BACK THERE. (Now I'm yelling like Pork.) I get so irritated when I read someone whining how they don't like a particular thread, and do so in five separate posts!
Okay, I'm done, for the time being...throw me to the wolves.
I read the "What's appropriate" thread on how to use the forum. For me, I rarely slam on the forum, simply because it's not my way, not in life, not in writing. But I do get slammed. It doesn't "hurt," because this is professional. I can't get hurt professionally - I may get angry, most likely indignant - but not hurt. When someone is disagreeing with me, well that's simply all that is. Isn't that the point? That we read and have available to us different points of view?
I'm not going to force my opinion down anyone's throat - that's from practice. My SO is a Republican - I'm not. We go at it regularly. Rarely will we ever be able to change an opionion - perhaps alter an opinion, but that's about all you can hope for.
The racy talk? To quote a phrase, bah, humbug. I don't know how anyone can get offended. I can tell pretty much right off the top which way a thread is going, especially in HR-d-har-har. If you don't like it, don't read it, and DON'T GO BACK THERE. (Now I'm yelling like Pork.) I get so irritated when I read someone whining how they don't like a particular thread, and do so in five separate posts!
Okay, I'm done, for the time being...throw me to the wolves.
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I personally have tried to stay away and tone down the acerbic commentary, but I agree that the Forum does seem a little more "white bread" than usual (and I hope I don't offend Pumpernickel bread by saying that).
My day was hot-to-handle. It's 4:30 here and I'm going home to take it out on my husband.
My husband likes it when I'm feisty. When I come home from work all hyper, it makes him feel needed. He takes care of the wine, etc. Ah, yes. He's quite a guy. Why, just last year when I had a bad day, he took me to ladies night - - at Home Depot!
Sigh. No man tops his thoughtfulness.
I suspect we will soon be exploring the edges of the envelop again. Your comments will likely resonate with a lot of us.
I don't think of myself as too vitriolic, but I do get intense about some of the topics and perhaps I go over the top on occasion.
I like the spicy side of things and as others have suggested, if the personality of this site gets to PC, I will find other outlets. Right now I am riding it out to see what happens. The forumites are so insightful and sometimes inciteful that I going to stick with it for a while. The education available on this site is an awesome thing - let's make sure it stays that way.
I personally think you are being too hard on yourself. It is kind of funny how many of us are self-identifying as the culprits. Your comment about zest is ironic, cause I think the zest is one of the things that has made this forum so addictive. I occasionally post on some other sites, but they are dry as Wheaties without milk compared to the forum.
It's interesting, so far all us posters to this thread are "regulars" who have interacted with each other many times. We have had some good times together. And, we are admitting that maybe we are part of the reason for the "crackdown". I have to admit, I have backed off on the number of posts, but partly due to being busier at work. But, more importantly, I am a lot more careful what I say. I have used the delete key alot more than previously because I wonder if someone will hit that alert key and turn me in. I had a post wiped out a few weeks ago presumably because someone reported it... but maybe not. But, I 2nd guess myself now and respond more blandly for fear that some may take my comments wrong and develop a misperception of who I am.
I do hope as Marc implied, this is just a phase of the pendulum. Maybe some have over reacted, including myself.
I'll have to find that thread you guys are talking about. (I also must mention that when I first typed "thread", it came out as "threat". Freudian slip?)
Any time I come across a thread that I don't particularly enjoy, I don't get upset or offended, I just MOVE ON. I hope the Forum continues to be as educational AND entertaining as we've enjoyed in the past.
Hope you guys don't stay away just cuz some folks take offense at some comments. I feel part of the Forum is being able to vent from time to time in a safe environment as well as getting very good feedback and information.
>intended, I think you are all getting a bit
>paranoid.
Remember, Sonny... just because you're paranoid doesn't mean they're NOT out to get you... buwAHAHAHAHAAHA!!! x;-)
Go figure, I created a post about being ADDICTED to the forum, then I went missing in action for two weeks.
Regarding what's appropriate . . . . those who don't like the posts need to stop reading them . . . if I can't openly express my opinion on the forum, (which kind of defeats the purpose, doesn't it?), then I'll go elsewhere.
My last day of work before Christmas, Merry Christmas to all!
As for me, I'm just killing time waiting for our holiday luncheon to start and chomping at the bit to close the office for the day. However, there is work to be done - in the process of approving a termination for an employee who physically threatened two coworkers during a Christmas gathering at one of our properties. How stupid can people be? x:o
Edit: Oops, sorry. I meant "holiday" gathering x:D
Twins separated at birth . . .
I have a LOT of time on my hands (I have also been housebound due to snow), and yes the posts have decreased and become a bit drier. So I urge you forumites, please don't restrain yourselves! I need the entertainment!
Ray, Parabeagle how is it that you both know the exact time the other one has posted so that you can respond?
Twins separated at birth? /:)
As for others being harsh, well, I guess that depends on how thick your skin is. I love this forum and am amazed at the knowledge that I see every day. I can't see taking things personally. Anyone who has spent enough time on the forum can get a feel for the tone of the group and decide for themselves whether it is something they can enjoy or not.