Aruba...
HRinGA
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How does someone completely and totally disappear from an island the size of my neighborhood? It still freaks me out that people can just disappear like that. No witnesses, no clues, no nothing. I hope one of those guys rolls on the others and fesses up. No family should go through this.
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If you knew that stuff contemporaneously, you would chain them to the radiator and lock them in the closet!#-o
>ways they got around the rules, when she first
>had sex, drank hard liquor, etc.
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Oh, you don't have to wait that long. My 22-yr old is telling me stuff now that I'd rather not know. What's worse is when they laugh when they tell you. What's so funny a year later?
The missing young woman, and her family, is in my prayers.
Cheryl C.
Linda
Linda
Whenever we all went out, my parents knew where I was. If there was ever a problem, I knew I could call them and they would be there in a minute. If I got in trouble, the punishment was never as bad as knowing I had let my parents down. That is the type of relationship I hope to have with my kids. I would always think twice because I knew that if I got in trouble, my parents would be disappointed. I want my kids to do the same thing. There are always going to be times when kids make bad decisions, as a parent, I know it is the way I respond that will determine if I can build that trust or if I push them away. I also undestand that my kids also have to earn that trust. I have always been able to talk to my parents and have always received solid advice. What a blessing that has been. Fortunately, it should help me in my endeavors, I certainly had the right role models.
If our judicial system were to allow for something like this to move forward, I will probably denounce my citizenship and move to Belize. This is exactly what is wrong with our country today. We stopped holding people accountable for their own actions and behaviors and are always searching for the next party to blame.
I am sorry that this terrible tragedy has befallen this young lady and her family. But make no mistake about it, her behavior was foolish. I'm sure that as a rising college freshman, she went through the date rape awareness, etc, etc. I will certainly bet that the chaperones conducted safety awareness meetings and do's/dont's. Yet, she allowed herself to get in a situation where she left a bar at 1:30 a.m., with three complete strangers by car? What do you want to bet that at least on one ocassion, one of the chaperones said "do not go out drinking by yourselves and leave with unknown males"?
May the families have a blessed day for the grief that the daughter's foolishness will bring.
Gene
With all that said however, the person(s) who did something to her are to blame. Even if she made a bad decision or was drugged, it looks like she paid the ultimate price. How can those boys live with themselves? (assuming they are guilty) How can they just sit there and be quiet?
To another post asking about a roommate; Really now, how many of your or my classmates can we think of who would have interceded when one of us was trying to 'hook up' after partying? Zero. We didn't have a term like 'hooking up' to denote what the intention was, but it was the same thing. Imagine how somebody would have been ostracized had they tried to intercede after a night of partying if one of us had left with a girl or a boy or strangers for that matter.
But, here we go trying to run the blame-train and scatter the responsibility just like 'we' do when kids turn into delinquents.
I'm sorry for her family, but I think she was extraordinarily foolish to go off on her own with strangers in a foreign country. As to whether her friends or the chaperones should have intervened, my guess is the "chaperones" were not in the vicinity and the "friends" either blew her off or there was something else going on there. I don't expect they will find her alive, if they ever find her.
If this fails, President Bush needs to order an immediate economic (including tourism) embargo until we start getting some answers. That beach search yesterday was the most pathetic exercise in futility I have ever seen. It was a token move to show everyone how much they're "trying".
Gene
I have a theory. The girl somehow dies/OD's/whatever while in the company of the Dutch bastard. He panics, gets scared, leaves her at the lighthouse or deserted beach. He gets home and realizes that he left her with eveything from his hair and semen to fingerprints. He freaks and tells Daddy the judge.
Daddy the judge gets him and the surinamese retards together, coaches them on a story/alibi/whatever, pays the right people to get rid of the body. All before anyone even reports the girl missing.
Now we're finally getting some truths here.
AMEN!
I will say that although I was a bit wild in high school, and will say that at no time would I have ever, nor ever let one of my friends leave with some guy she had met at a party, let alone 3! So Don by your standards, I would have been horribly ostracized, but be that as it may I would not have had raped or killed friends. The actions of this girl were not so smart. If she wanted to "hook up" I am sure the room she was staying in was available. Even if she thought they were just all going to go swim on the beach, never should a girl in any country leave with 3 guys she has recently met. It is horribly sad and I feel for her family, however I see it as a time for us to learn and educate our children and ourselves. My daughter is never going out of the country at 18 to "party" without me. Call me obsessive, overprotective, pessimistic, that is fine, but it not happening on my watch. I just don't believe things are as they were when I was young. Too many with too ill intentions running around.
Linda