Training Husbands and Killer Whales
ray a
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An article on Newsweek online answers the question, [b][i]Want an obedient spouse?[/b] [/i]
Some quotes:
[i]..."the key to marital bliss is to ignore negative habits and reward positive ones, the same approach animal trainers use to get killer whales to leap from their tanks and elephants to stand on their heads."
[b]Sit, Beg, Roll Over, Stay[/b]
Animal trainers use lots of tricks to train their charges. Try the techniques below at home.
Reward positive behavior: If your mate picks up just one dirty sock without being asked, give lots of praise. Or a tasty fish.
Ignore negatives: Don't nag about the rest of the filthy laundry still piled on the floor. Trainers call this Least Reinforcing Scenario.
Don ' t take it personally: Laundry is just laundry, not a symbol for how much your spouse loves you or values your marriage. [/i]
The book was written by a woman and is aimed primarily at training husbands. I'd like to hear from some of you women telling us if it works or not. Joannie, Nae, Coffee.....???
Some quotes:
[i]..."the key to marital bliss is to ignore negative habits and reward positive ones, the same approach animal trainers use to get killer whales to leap from their tanks and elephants to stand on their heads."
[b]Sit, Beg, Roll Over, Stay[/b]
Animal trainers use lots of tricks to train their charges. Try the techniques below at home.
Reward positive behavior: If your mate picks up just one dirty sock without being asked, give lots of praise. Or a tasty fish.
Ignore negatives: Don't nag about the rest of the filthy laundry still piled on the floor. Trainers call this Least Reinforcing Scenario.
Don ' t take it personally: Laundry is just laundry, not a symbol for how much your spouse loves you or values your marriage. [/i]
The book was written by a woman and is aimed primarily at training husbands. I'd like to hear from some of you women telling us if it works or not. Joannie, Nae, Coffee.....???
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BTW, my hubby puts his laundry in the hamper, does his share of housework (mostly), and takes turns cooking dinner. (Of course, his dinner cooking is usually something out of a can or the freezer, but he still takes his turn.) I appreciate all of his efforts and frequently tell him so. x:D
It's all very complicated, ray. Don't feel bad if it doesn't make sense....good boy!
Good boy! You're learning your animals! Good word association! I'm so proud of you! No....down boy...I'm not going to rub your belly....go chase your tail some more!
Positive reinforcement works with my children, except for the fish part. Believe it or not, my children (usually) take their dishes to the sink without being asked. Quite an improvement. Now if I could just get them to stop dribbling over the edge of the toilet, or at least wipe it up... Perhaps a reward of frozen fish sticks will do the trick.
Q, that almost sounds kinky.
If you haven't read the Valentines Thread, please do so, especially ACUFrank's post. If he did all that he said for Valentines Day for his wife, we need to contact her to take over this thread. She obviously has the "training" secret.
I've finally, after 11 years, gotten my husband trained to not be fearful of shopping for me and to get me gifts I'm really going to enjoy....for the first five years we were together he always used to buy me tools. He also does most of the dishes, about half the laundry, and vacuums the floors probably more often than I do, so I guess the scratching behind his ears and telling him "Good boy!" must be working!
Innuendon't.
Fetch, boy.
and I don't mean a Mountain Dew.